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. 2010 Nov 1;19(4):858-872.
doi: 10.1111/j.1467-9507.2009.00546.x.

Future Directions in the Study of Close Relationships: Conflict is Bad (Except When It's Not)

Brett Laursen  1 , Christopher Hafen
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Future Directions in the Study of Close Relationships: Conflict is Bad (Except When It's Not)

Brett Laursen et al. Soc Dev. .

Abstract

Beneficial and detrimental correlates of interpersonal disagreement have been postulated and documented. The conclusion: Conflict is both bad and good. The evidence for these paradoxical effects is summarized. In this essay, we argue that the consequences of conflict for individuals depends on its frequency, the way in which it is managed, and the quality of the relationship in which it arises. Nonlinear patterns of association are hypothesized such that constructive conflicts, particularly those arising in supportive relationships, should (up to a limit) predict more beneficial and fewer detrimental outcomes. In contrast, coercive conflicts, particularly those arising in unsupportive relationships, should predict more adverse and fewer favorable outcomes.

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Detrimental Outcomes as a Function of the Frequency of Conflict
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Beneficial Outcomes as a Function of the Frequency of Conflict
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Detrimental Outcomes as a Function of the Frequency of Conflict in Poor Quality Relationships and Good Quality Relationships
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Beneficial Outcomes as a Function of the Frequency of Conflict in Poor Quality Relationships and Good Quality Relationships
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Detrimental Outcomes as a Function of the Frequency of Coercive Conflicts and Constructive Conflicts
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Beneficial Outcomes as a Function of the Frequency of Coercive Conflicts and Constructive Conflicts
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Detrimental Outcomes as a Function of the Ratio of Constructive Conflicts to Coercive Conflicts in Poor Quality Relationships and Good Quality Relationships
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Beneficial Outcomes as a Function of the Ratio of Constructive Conflicts to Coercive Conflicts in Poor Quality Relationships and Good Quality Relationships
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