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. 2022 Mar;48(3):347-362.
doi: 10.1177/01461672211007228. Epub 2021 Apr 15.

Low Self-Control: A Hidden Cause of Loneliness?

Olga Stavrova  1 , Dongning Ren  1 , Tila Pronk  1
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Low Self-Control: A Hidden Cause of Loneliness?

Olga Stavrova et al. Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2022 Mar.

Abstract

Loneliness has been associated with multiple negative outcomes. But what contributes to loneliness in the first place? Drawing from the literature on the importance of self-regulatory ability for successful social functioning, the present research explored the role of low self-control as a factor leading to loneliness. A set of four studies (and three additional studies in Supplementary Online Materials) using cross-sectional, experimental, daily diary, and experience sampling methods showed that lower self-control is associated with higher loneliness at both trait and state levels. Why does low self-control contribute to loneliness? Self-control failures that have negative implications for others lead to higher risks for being ostracized by others, which predicts increased feelings of loneliness over time. These results suggest that low self-control, which is often associated with negative intrapersonal outcomes, can have important interpersonal consequences by evoking ostracism, and consequently, loneliness.

Keywords: daily diary; experience sampling; loneliness; ostracism; self-control; social exclusion.

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Declaration of Conflicting Interests: The author(s) declared no potential conflicts of interest with respect to the research, authorship, and/or publication of this article.

Figures

Figure 1.
Figure 1.
Mediation analysis, Study 2. Note. Unstandardized regression coefficients. Indirect effect: −0.03, 95% CI = [−0.06; −0.01]. The number inside the brackets is the total effect (c), the number outside the brackets is the direct effect (c’). *p < .05. **p < .01. ***p < .001.
Figure 2.
Figure 2.
Mediation analyses, Study 3. Note. Unstandardized regression coefficients. Indirect effect via ability: −.70, 95% CI = [−1.02; −.40]; indirect effect via prosocial disposition: −.08, 95% CI = [−.18; .0002]. The number inside the brackets is the total effect (c), the number outside the brackets is the direct effect (c’). *p < .05, ** p < .01, *** p < .001.
Figure 3.
Figure 3.
Mediation analyses (Panel A: trait measures; Panel B: longitudinal mediation, momentary assessments), Study 4. Note. The number inside the brackets is the total effect (c), the number outside the brackets is the direct effect (c’). *p < .05. **p < .01. ***p < .001.
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