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. 2022 Jan;51(1):453-463.
doi: 10.1007/s10508-021-02190-7. Epub 2022 Jan 15.

Intimacy in Psychotherapy: An Exploratory Survey Among Therapists

Lara Vesentini  1 , Roel Van Overmeire  2 , Frieda Matthys  2 , Dirk De Wachter  3 , Hubert Van Puyenbroeck  2 , Johan Bilsen  2
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Intimacy in Psychotherapy: An Exploratory Survey Among Therapists

Lara Vesentini et al. Arch Sex Behav. 2022 Jan.

Abstract

A certain level of intimacy is necessary in psychotherapeutic relationships for them to be effective, but it can sometimes develop further into more intimate feelings and behaviors related to friendship and sexuality, into friendship, or even into sexual relationships. In this study, a self-administered questionnaire was sent to psychotherapists in Flanders (Belgium), asking about the occurrence of these situations. It provides an overview of these occurrences and comparative data to view for generational and cultural differences with previous studies. A response rate of 40% was obtained (N = 786): 69% of respondents were female therapists and none were transgender. A total of 758 therapists stated that they had actually provided psychotherapy and were included for further analysis. Three percent started a sexual relationship with a current and/or former client, 3.7% started a friendship during therapy, and 13.4% started a friendship after therapy. About seven out of ten therapists found a client sexually attractive, a quarter fantasized about a romantic relationship, and a fifth gave a goodbye hug at the end of a session (22%). In general, more male therapists reported sexual feelings and behaviors than female therapists. Older therapists more often behaved informally and started friendships with former clients compared to younger colleagues. Psychiatrists reported sexual feelings and fantasies less often than non-psychiatrists, and behavioral therapists reported this less frequently than person-centered and psychoanalytic therapists. Overall, prevalence rates of intimate feelings and behaviors related to friendship and sexuality are lower than those in previous studies.

Keywords: Friendship; Intimacy; Psychotherapy; Relationship; Sexuality.

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